No matter what we do or how nice we are, we always attract haters. Always. 

Hating is a part of life.  As Aristotle, the great philosopher, once said: 
       There is one way to avoid criticism: Do nothing. Say nothing. Be nothing.

Even though it's hard to have someone criticize or dislike us, there are things we can do to manage our reaction and rise above our feelings.

​Dear friend in Florida,

Maybe you're afraid to tell someone because you don't want to be judged.

Maybe you think others will believe you deserve it, since it's being done by a family member.

Maybe you're so tired from the stress, you just want to tuck yourself under a blanket and forget about the pain and hateful words...
the fighting... 
the explaining...
the defending.

My encouragement to you is this:

You deserve love. Not for any other reason, other than you’re human and your life is priceless. 

Please know there is never a good reason for someone to bully you, not even for family members.  

Bullying done in the name of love is still bullying. Don't make excuses for them. Their nit-picking, put downs, constant criticism, lack of affection, complaining to others about you, silent treatment and hitting are all forms of abuse.  

It's abuse you don't have to take.

It's okay to seek refuge for yourself, especially when you are being physically harmed. Remove yourself from the situation when you see things escalating.  Go lock yourself in the bathroom or walk out the door and leave.  

Did you hear me, friend? Leave if you are in an unsafe situation.  Get someone to help you if you are afraid to do it alone.
You can do this.

You are strong,
You are brave,
You can do hard things.

You are valued.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  Please know you are not alone.
We're here if you need us.